Life Skills Education and Counseling - Naibowa - new_school

Visit by Lorna Katagara on 2021-10-25

Report ID
14562
Created by
Lorna Katagara
Created date
2021-10-26 11:46:55 UTC
Modified by
Lorna Katagara
Modified date
2021-10-26 12:59:43 UTC
Trip Time
10:15-17:00 (6 h 45 m)
Village Time
12:00-15:15 (3 h 15 m)
Travel Time
3 h 30 m

Life Skills Education and Counseling community lesson

School
new_school 
Lesson Taught
Relationship Skills: Love 
Girls Attended
Boys Attended
Total Student Attendance
Teachers Attended
Fathers Attended
Mothers Attended
28 
Total Parent Attendance
36 
Staff Attendees
Lorna Katagara 
Government Attendees
LC1,VHT 
School Staff Attendees
Class Teacher 
Visitor Attendees
None 
Total Attendance
Learning Objectives
By the end of the lesson, the community knows how to manage anger? By the end of the lesson , the community knows what love is, characteristics also
Notes
On arrival, there were many women peeling cassava and chatting away as they were peeling cassava. Lorna thought there was a funeral of thoughts but later learned that the committee decided that they should prepare a meal for the community members.This was done to encourage community members to attend the meeting and not have excuses that they have to cook. After more community members had come, the meeting was started. The meeting opened with a word of prayer from Japhate who is a primary seven dropout. After this prayer, the community members clapped their hands in awe because the boy looks very reserved and no one expected much out of him. After the prayer Wakiso greeted the community members and as usual took us through the previous lesson managing emotions. He reviewed while asking the community members especially of those that were present that day. After which he invited Lorna to continue. Lorna also started by greeting the community members after which continued with the previous lesson on anger. We saw that we can manage anger through reconciliation by inviting a third party to help us get rid of the anger or manage anger. Lorna emphasized forgiveness , not holding onto the past, praying to God to intervene. One man stood up and mentioned that he is happy for these lessons because they would help them in life and in their families. He mentioned that women hold a lot of things in their hearts and they pass this on to the children who then turn against their fathers because they were angry. He asked Lorna to talk to the women. Isabirye mentioned of a man they hurried who was hacked to death by his wife because of anger. Lorna mentioned that in order to avoid cases of murder, divorce, imprisonment we need to develop strategies to manage our anger and this can be as easy as talking about stuff before going to bed, listen to music, ride the bicycle, read a book, talk to someone, talk to religious leaders, the elderly among others. After this topic we looked at Love, Lorna started by asking the community what they consider love as. Isabirye mentioned that for most of them, it is sex. Lorna asked what else and they kept quiet. Lorna mentioned that Love is sacrificial where you want to do something for yourself but have to let it be for the sake of the other person. It involves sacrificing time, money among others. Love is forgiving when one wrongs you, you forgive them because you love them. Love does not keep record of wrongs , it does not build up anger. After here, Lorna asked the community members what are the qualities they looked for in their husbands or wives before they married them. Some mentioned they were caring,one Juma mentioned that for him he is not married but he would look at the body ( buttocks and hips) . Lorna told him but these can fade away and he said it is fine he just wouldn’t marry an ugly woman everyone laughed. Isabirye mentioned that for his wife he looked out for her intelligence like talking to her for the times he hadn’t married her made him realize he was the right one. Another one mentioned patience that his wife was patient and knew that she would be patient with him even in marriage. After we looked at all these characteristics , Lorna mentioned that it is important that we look out for these qualities before we get married and these would help to avoid many challenges ahead or in future. She urged the parents to also help guide their children in their relationships and ask them these questions to avoid them making unhealthy and unwise decisions. Others were to look at the family of their loved one who are they, religion, how do they behave among other. When we know these qualities for the married people it helps us to deal with each other accordingly to build on ones qualities when they are not meeting their responsibilities. Lorna then mentioned okay now that they are already stuck in marriage but their loved ones are not portraying the qualities like previously does that mean they should not love them anymore?. They mentioned no and we concluded that we need to learn how to support and complement one another. Also we looked at accomplishing ones roles and responsibilities as love. We concluded by saying love is action. Isabirye appreciated the lesson and mentioned to community members that If we all attended these lessons we would be different. He asked community members who have older children to come along with them on the next meeting since there is so much for them to learn and that what they would not tell their children, they would learn here. He also mentioned that they barely need the Mama Police who is in charge of Family in the Police unit because whatever she would be teaching Lorna has taught. He thanked Lorna and Kibo for the lessons. The parish councilor who was passing by also stopped by and addressed the meeting and thanked Kibo and Lorna for the lessons they are bringing to this village. 
Next Visit
2021-11-01 - Purpose: Lorna will be teaching on Gender roles and responsibilities
Program Success
None
Program Critical Needs
Gender roles and responsibilities
Program Ownership
The community was very interactive
Other Program Observations
Well functioning borehole
Program Expected Of Village
Each one to bring someone along to the next meeting
Program Staff Preparations Next Visit
Call prior and also prepare notes
 

Report Photos

22842 Parish councilor Mr. Ronald addressing the meeting
22845 Wakiso on the topic of love
22848 Daniel contributing to the topic of the day
22851 Sarah was also describing what love is to her
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